Tag Archives: happiness

Meaning v. Happiness

NYT relays four “well-being workouts” from Dr. Martin Seligman.

“Psychology is generally focused on how to relieve depression, anger and worry,” he said…“What makes life worth living,” he said, “is much more than the absence of the negative.”

To Dr. Seligman, the most effective long-term strategy for happiness is to actively cultivate well-being.

In his 2012 book, “Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-Being,” he explored how well-being consists not merely of feeling happy (an emotion that can be fleeting) but of experiencing a sense of contentment in the knowledge that your life is flourishing and has meaning beyond your own pleasure.

Goals for 2017

Here’s an oldie but not-baddie: the New Year’s Resolution worksheet I once-upon-a-time put together for residents at the 28-day crisis program where I used to work. It’s been posted here before, but…it’s a new year again, so here it is.

Sometimes resolving to take on new, better behaviors just sets you up for disappointment. There’s some wisdom in abstaining from the whole process. But, if you’re going to give resolutions a shot, the worksheet can be helpful in getting them structured. It asks, what are your goals for the coming year, what are behaviors would you like to change, what are attitudes do you hope to adjust. Then, once narrowed to resolutions, you’re prompted to break each item down into steps. “So you want to ____________; what’s the first action you have to take to get there?”

It was helpful for the residential program folks. It could help you too.

Either way, Happy New Year!

Why Bond?

Kinderwagen op ski's (slee) op het ijs, voortgeduwd door moeder op schaatsen. Moeder draagt (onpraktische) schaatskleding en de baby vermaakt zich met een speelgoed varkentje. St. Moritz, Zwitserland, 1926.

Another day, another study saying that healthy attachments are good for you (especially if you’re a preschooler).

Research has shown that our children’s chances of future success are driven by a variety of factors, including those that are somewhat beyond our immediate control, such as genes and financial status. The new study, however, found that a caring and emotionally attentive parent is likely to be a solid, long-term game-changer.

 

 

Why Are Older People Happier?

Science seeks answers.  A couple of possibilities:

[S]tudies have discovered that as people age, they seek out situations that will lift their moods — for instance, pruning social circles of friends or acquaintances who might bring them down. Still other work finds that older adults learn to let go of loss and disappointment over unachieved goals, and hew their goals toward greater wellbeing…

 

Sisters and Happiness

Deborah Tannen looks at why having a sister makes people happier.

My own recent research about sisters suggests a more subtle dynamic. I interviewed more than 100 women about their sisters, but if they also had brothers, I asked them to compare. Most said they talked to their sisters more often, at greater length and, yes, about more personal topics. This often meant that they felt closer to their sisters, but not always…

But Will It Make You Happy?

Stuff v. Happiness in the NYT:

A two-bedroom apartment. Two cars. Enough wedding china to serve two dozen people.  Yet Tammy Strobel wasn’t happy. Working as a project manager with an investment management firm in Davis, Calif., and making about $40,000 a year, she was, as she put it, caught in the “work-spend treadmill.”  So one day she stepped off…