Human Being v. Human Doing

Jim Taylor, PhD asks, Are you raising a human being or a human doing?

Having internalized their perceptions of being a human doing from their parents, children come to love themselves only when they are successful and experience nothing less than self-loathing when they fail.

Meanwhile, back in 2007, Po Bronson sounded the alarm about the inverse power of praise.  (The article later became a book, NurtureShock.)  In a line:

Giving kids the label of “smart” does not prevent them from underperforming. It might actually be causing it.

Which, taken together, sort of synch up.  Sort of.  In another line:  Parenting is confusing. If you’re struggling with it, you’re not alone.